Day: August 18, 2024

  • Faithfulness in Relationships: A Divine Calling.

    Faithfulness in Relationships: A Divine Calling.

    In a world that often prioritizes personal happiness and instant gratification, the concept of faithfulness can seem outdated or even burdensome. Yet, as we delve deeper into the spiritual truths that govern our lives, we discover that faithfulness is not just a virtue—it’s a divine calling that shapes our relationship with God and others.

    The Grass Isn’t Always Greener

    We’ve all been there—that moment when we’re tempted to believe that something new and different will be better than what we currently have. It’s the allure of the “greener grass” on the other side. Whether it’s switching coffee shops, changing jobs, or even contemplating leaving a relationship, the temptation to be unfaithful to our commitments is a universal human experience.

    But what if our pursuit of personal satisfaction isn’t the most important thing in the universe? What if there’s a greater purpose to our existence that transcends our individual desires?

    A Higher Calling

    The book of Malachi reminds us of a profound truth: “Do we not all have one Father? Did not one God create us?” This simple yet powerful statement reframes our entire perspective. We are not isolated individuals pursuing our own happiness, but part of a greater story—God’s story.

    We belong to something bigger than ourselves. We are part of a covenant, a promise that God has maintained throughout generations. Every time we exalt our desires above God’s will, we disrespect this covenant. Our faithfulness, therefore, is not just about our personal integrity—it’s about honoring our place in God’s grand narrative.

    Faithfulness in Marriage

    One of the most significant areas where God calls us to faithfulness is in marriage. The scripture warns against marrying those who don’t share our faith, not out of prejudice, but out of a desire for unity in the most fundamental aspect of life—our relationship with God.

    For those already married to non-believers, the apostle Paul offers wisdom: “If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.” The call here is to remain faithful, to pray, and to trust God’s work in your spouse’s life.

    The Covenant of Marriage

    Marriage is more than a feeling—it’s a covenant. When we say, “I have fallen out of love,” we misunderstand the nature of marriage. It’s not about perpetual happiness or ease, but about a promise made before God and to each other.

    The scripture says, “Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit.” This reminds us that our marriages belong to God. He is the witness to our vows, and He calls us to faithfulness even when it’s difficult.

    Guarding Against Unfaithfulness

    Being faithful in marriage requires vigilance. We’re warned to “be on your guard,” recognizing that none of us are above the temptation to be unfaithful. This includes guarding our thoughts, actions, and even our digital lives. Pornography, for instance, is a form of unfaithfulness that can severely damage marriages.

    For those dating, the call to faithfulness begins long before marriage. Treat your relationships with deep respect, recognizing that they may lead to the sacred covenant of marriage.

    Hope for Struggling Marriages

    If your marriage is struggling, don’t lose hope. God is in the business of restoration. When you choose faithfulness over personal happiness or ease, God honors that decision. Start each day by choosing to love your spouse, invest in your relationship, and watch how God can breathe new life into your marriage.

    However, it’s important to note that in cases of abuse, abandonment, or persistent adultery, the scriptures do provide an allowance for divorce (E.g., Matthew 5:32, Matthew 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:15). Even in these painful circumstances, God’s love and grace remain constant.

    The Ultimate Example of Faithfulness

    As we strive for faithfulness in our relationships, we must remember that we’re not alone in this journey. Jesus Christ provides the ultimate example of faithfulness. When we failed, He remained faithful. He offers grace and forgiveness for our shortcomings and leaves us with the Holy Spirit to guide and strengthen us.

    If you’ve struggled with faithfulness, know that there is abundant grace available. Through Christ, you can become the faithful person God has called you to be. It’s not about perfection, but about progress—allowing God to grow in you the fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

    A Call to Action

    As we reflect on the importance of faithfulness, let’s challenge ourselves to:

    1. Recognize our place in God’s greater story and covenant.

    2. Commit to faithfulness in our marriages and dating relationships.

    3. Guard our hearts and minds against temptations to unfaithfulness.

    4. Seek God’s strength and guidance in maintaining our commitments.

    5. Extend grace to ourselves and others who have struggled with faithfulness.

    6. Trust in God’s power to restore and renew our relationships.

    Remember, faithfulness is not just about following rules—it’s about honoring God, respecting the covenants we’ve made, and reflecting God’s unchanging love to the world around us. In a culture that often prioritizes personal fulfillment above all else, choosing faithfulness is a powerful testament to the transformative power of God’s love in our lives.

    As you go forward, may you be encouraged to pursue faithfulness in all your relationships, trusting that as you do so, you’re participating in something far greater than yourself—you’re living out God’s story of redemption and love in the world.

    Rev. Joshua Ryu

  • Malachi #3 Life Group Guide: “Faithfulness in Relationships”

    Malachi #3 Life Group Guide: “Faithfulness in Relationships”

    Life Group Guide: Faithfulness in Relationships

    Opening Prayer

    Key Takeaways:

    1. God desires faithfulness in our relationships, especially in marriage.

    2. Our faithfulness in any relationship reflects our faithfulness to God.

    3. Marriage is a covenant before God, not just a personal commitment.

    4. Being faithful requires vigilance and intentional effort.

    5. God’s grace is available for those who have failed in faithfulness.

    Discussion Questions:

    1. What stood out to you most from the sermon? Why?

    2. In the sermon, PJ mentions that “your happiness is not the most important thing in the universe.” How does this challenge our cultural views on relationships?

    3. How can we practically “be on our guard” against unfaithfulness in our relationships?

    4. Discuss the challenges of maintaining faithfulness in a world that often prioritizes personal happiness over commitment.

    5. How does our faithfulness (or lack thereof) in relationships impact our witness as Christians?

    6. PJ addresses the issue of marrying non-believers. What are your thoughts on this, and how can we support those struggling with this decision?

    7. How can we, as a church community, better support marriages and promote faithfulness?

    8. Reflect on the statement: “Marriage is not about me.” How does this perspective change the way we approach relationships?

    Practical Applications:

    1. If married: Commit to praying daily for your spouse and your marriage this week.

    If single: Reflect on and write down your standards for a future relationship that honors God.

    2. Identify any areas in your life where you might be compromising faithfulness (e.g., emotional attachments, pornography). Make a plan to address these issues.

    3. Reach out to a couple in the church whose marriage you admire. Ask if you can meet with them to learn from their experience.

    4. If you’re struggling with faithfulness, confide in a trusted friend or mentor and ask for accountability.

    5. Write a letter (you don’t have to send it) to God, expressing your commitment to faithfulness in your relationships and asking for His strength.

    Closing Prayer:

    Thank God for His faithfulness to us and ask for His help in being faithful in our relationships.

    5-day Bible reading plan and devotional guide:

    Day 1: God’s Enduring Love

    Reading: Malachi 1:1-5

    Devotional: As we begin this journey through Malachi, we’re reminded of God’s unwavering love for His people. Despite their unfaithfulness, God declares, “I have loved you.” Reflect on how God has demonstrated His love in your life, even in times when you may have felt unworthy or distant. How can you respond to this love today? Consider writing a prayer of gratitude, acknowledging God’s faithfulness in your life.

    Day 2: Worship from the Heart

    Reading: Malachi 1:6-14

    Devotional: God desires sincere, wholehearted worship. Today’s passage challenges us to examine our attitudes in worship. Are we giving God our best, or merely going through the motions? Take time to reflect on your approach to worship, both in church and in your daily life. Ask the Holy Spirit to renew your passion for God and to help you offer worship that truly honors Him.

    Day 3: Covenant Faithfulness

    Reading: Malachi 2:10-16

    Devotional: Today’s reading emphasizes the importance of faithfulness in our relationships, especially in marriage. God views our commitments as sacred covenants. Whether you’re married, single, or in a relationship, consider how you can cultivate faithfulness in your life. How can you honor God through your relationships? Pray for strength to remain faithful and for wisdom to navigate relationships in a way that pleases God.

    Day 4: The Refiner’s Fire

    Reading: Malachi 3:1-4

    Devotional: God promises to purify His people like a refiner purifies silver. This process, while challenging, leads to spiritual growth and renewal. Reflect on areas in your life where God might be working to refine you. How can you embrace this process, trusting in God’s loving purpose? Ask God for the courage to face areas of needed growth and for His grace to sustain you through times of testing.

    Day 5: Hope and Restoration

    Reading: Malachi 4:1-6

    Devotional: Malachi concludes with a message of hope and the promise of restoration. Even in times of difficulty or spiritual dryness, God assures us of His coming and the healing He brings. How does this promise of future hope impact your present circumstances? Meditate on God’s faithfulness throughout history and in your own life. Pray for renewed hope and for the strength to live in light of God’s promises, sharing His love with others around you.

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