Faithfulness in Relationships: A Divine Calling.
In a world that often prioritizes personal happiness and instant gratification, the concept of faithfulness can seem outdated or even burdensome. Yet, as we delve deeper into the spiritual truths that govern our lives, we discover that faithfulness is not just a virtue—it's a divine calling that shapes our relationship with God and others.
The Grass Isn't Always Greener
We've all been there—that moment when we're tempted to believe that something new and different will be better than what we currently have. It's the allure of the "greener grass" on the other side. Whether it's switching coffee shops, changing jobs, or even contemplating leaving a relationship, the temptation to be unfaithful to our commitments is a universal human experience.
But what if our pursuit of personal satisfaction isn't the most important thing in the universe? What if there's a greater purpose to our existence that transcends our individual desires?
A Higher Calling
The book of Malachi reminds us of a profound truth: "Do we not all have one Father? Did not one God create us?" This simple yet powerful statement reframes our entire perspective. We are not isolated individuals pursuing our own happiness, but part of a greater story—God's story.
We belong to something bigger than ourselves. We are part of a covenant, a promise that God has maintained throughout generations. Every time we exalt our desires above God's will, we disrespect this covenant. Our faithfulness, therefore, is not just about our personal integrity—it's about honoring our place in God's grand narrative.
Faithfulness in Marriage
One of the most significant areas where God calls us to faithfulness is in marriage. The scripture warns against marrying those who don't share our faith, not out of prejudice, but out of a desire for unity in the most fundamental aspect of life—our relationship with God.
For those already married to non-believers, the apostle Paul offers wisdom: "If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him." The call here is to remain faithful, to pray, and to trust God's work in your spouse's life.
The Covenant of Marriage
Marriage is more than a feeling—it's a covenant. When we say, "I have fallen out of love," we misunderstand the nature of marriage. It's not about perpetual happiness or ease, but about a promise made before God and to each other.
The scripture says, "Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit." This reminds us that our marriages belong to God. He is the witness to our vows, and He calls us to faithfulness even when it's difficult.
Guarding Against Unfaithfulness
Being faithful in marriage requires vigilance. We're warned to "be on your guard," recognizing that none of us are above the temptation to be unfaithful. This includes guarding our thoughts, actions, and even our digital lives. Pornography, for instance, is a form of unfaithfulness that can severely damage marriages.
For those dating, the call to faithfulness begins long before marriage. Treat your relationships with deep respect, recognizing that they may lead to the sacred covenant of marriage.
Hope for Struggling Marriages
If your marriage is struggling, don't lose hope. God is in the business of restoration. When you choose faithfulness over personal happiness or ease, God honors that decision. Start each day by choosing to love your spouse, invest in your relationship, and watch how God can breathe new life into your marriage.
However, it's important to note that in cases of abuse, abandonment, or persistent adultery, the scriptures do provide an allowance for divorce (E.g., Matthew 5:32, Matthew 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:15). Even in these painful circumstances, God's love and grace remain constant.
The Ultimate Example of Faithfulness
As we strive for faithfulness in our relationships, we must remember that we're not alone in this journey. Jesus Christ provides the ultimate example of faithfulness. When we failed, He remained faithful. He offers grace and forgiveness for our shortcomings and leaves us with the Holy Spirit to guide and strengthen us.
If you've struggled with faithfulness, know that there is abundant grace available. Through Christ, you can become the faithful person God has called you to be. It's not about perfection, but about progress—allowing God to grow in you the fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
A Call to Action
As we reflect on the importance of faithfulness, let's challenge ourselves to:
1. Recognize our place in God's greater story and covenant.
2. Commit to faithfulness in our marriages and dating relationships.
3. Guard our hearts and minds against temptations to unfaithfulness.
4. Seek God's strength and guidance in maintaining our commitments.
5. Extend grace to ourselves and others who have struggled with faithfulness.
6. Trust in God's power to restore and renew our relationships.
Remember, faithfulness is not just about following rules—it's about honoring God, respecting the covenants we've made, and reflecting God's unchanging love to the world around us. In a culture that often prioritizes personal fulfillment above all else, choosing faithfulness is a powerful testament to the transformative power of God's love in our lives.
As you go forward, may you be encouraged to pursue faithfulness in all your relationships, trusting that as you do so, you're participating in something far greater than yourself—you're living out God's story of redemption and love in the world.
Rev. Joshua Ryu
